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| Can Rebound Relationship Work | November 4, 2009, 6:49 am | visits: 0 | wordcount: 481
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By Francis Hosein
Many people get into a rebound relationship because they feel that they had unfinished things in the relationship.
Can rebound relationship work if you are not clear of your needs and why you are going back into the relationship, is it for love, security, freedom or a fear of being alone?
Unexpected
When you get into a relationship be it short or long term you are not set out to have a rebound relationship, your purpose is to build something long and it is only with time getting to know each other you will.
When your relationship finishes you may feel as if a bulldozer had run over you, it may take you a long time to get through the days ahead especially if you were not expecting to break up.
It would seem you do not have to wait a long time for you to feel the deep feelings of love for another.
Looking to fulfill your hole
You may feel that the pain of the break up is too difficult for you and you may reach out for support from another.
If you lose yourself in another relationship so the pain of the first you hope will subside there is no guarantee that it will last.
Majority of relationship that are form after a break up do not last and it is no ones fault.
Hoping to fulfill the hole that you feel within cannot be fulfill by another.
Some get into rebound relationship to show to their ex that they are not feeling the pain of the relationship that was ended.
Whose truth?
When you hear from others that rebound relationships never last this is not true, let's say the majority of rebound relationship does not work out that is truth.
Can it work
One of the reason why rebound relationship may not work is you are in another relationship and you are still missing, hurting for the other person, and the right thing to do would be to get some counselling to heal your problem.
If the person was already letting go of the relationship while they were in it because they have tried but to no end, they felt that the relationship can't go any further and they started the letting go within.
When they meet the other person in a rebound way they had already done their grieving.
Rebound relationship can work if you have done some work on yourself.
It can work if you are not looking for the other person to fulfill you or be a substitute for your pass relationship.
Allow yourself to not bring your problems that you had in the past into your new relationship.
Do not expect the other person will act like your ex.
Give yourself and the relationship time to develop and start fulfilling your need.
Conclusion: A rebound relationship has little chance of surviving and yet it can depend on what was going on before in the other relationship.
The author grants full reprint rights to this article. You may reprint and electronically distribute this article so long as its contents remain unchanged, and the author's byline remains in place. Francis is the owner of http://trans-formers.com if you want more information on relationship in your life you can find at:http://www.trans-formers.com/free-relationship-advice.html
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