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| Why Relationships Fail - Part 1 | September 20, 2009, 6:49 am | visits: 26 | wordcount: 499
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By CD Mohatta
What are the possible reasons of a beautiful loving relationship turning to that of hatred? Does anybody know the answer to this? I believe that many will say that the relationship was never strong to begin with? What if I say that I have seen a relationship that was as strong as a bank vault and then crumbled down like a mud house?
In the relationship I am talking about one partner started facing problems because of her own decisions. She was having major value differences with the male where the male wanted her to speak about truth to the whole world but the female wanted to play hide and seek. This was causing her lot of anguish. She never tried to address the root cause but started blaming the male for all her problems. As the male was unable to convince her about his viewpoint, which would have brought peace, all around after a period of turmoil but the female refused. She did not want to face any turmoil. This relationship lives in the heart of the man who thinks of the woman all the time, but the woman left him after cursing him of all the ills that were befalling her.
Relationships tumble down for different reasons. Sometimes one partner wants to give more emphasis to career than the other desires. Some times one partner feels that the other is taking advantage. Whatever the reason, the confidence in each other is lost. As soon as that happens partners begin blaming each other for everything. They even question the motive of their partner for doing something when they were in the phase of love. The past is dissected and poison is poured over loving memories. That is the end of love and only hate survives. Call this destiny or fate. No analysis helps in finding out the reasons of destruction. That becomes a bigger pain.
Why people change?
Human nature cannot be predicted. We all think that we know somebody. That means that we believe that we know how a friend or family member would react to a situation. We think that we know this at least about people we are very close to. Do we really? If that were true, relationship would not sour. Because our partner is surely a person we know a lot about. But suddenly we are confronted with a partner about whom our feelings change or vice versa. Why does this happen?
I am not sure whether people change at all. But surely the way they behave or act is so unexpected that we feel they have changed. In a relationship a couple may have been having the best time together. Both partners think that they are made for each other. There is a belief that their goals are same and that their thoughts are same. They are a perfect couple who are in deep romantic love and who seem to be unable to live without each other. Please read further in part two of this article series.
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