By John Smithe
In your efforts at matchmaking for your love life, are you marriage minded or cohabitation minded and is one avenue better than the other? This article is not touting marriage to be better than cohabitation or vice versa; however, it will bring to light the pros and cons of both areas of long-term commitment.
"Due to the recent economic downturn, many couples are postponing wedding ceremonies because of cost." (As noted in the Christian Newswire). Finances and instability is a factor that can cause couples to choose cohabitation over marriage in their efforts at matchmaking. Finances can become a problem in your relationship, especially if you do not have a lot of money and you are on the road to bigger and bigger debt. When you are married, generally speaking you join together in one bank account and you work together in your financial mindset and decisions. However, in your matchmaking efforts, sometimes you are not so willing to work together in your finances and those financial choices and would rather remain independent and not have to "answer to your mate" about your financial choices. That is one reason why some people choose not to get married. In your matchmaking efforts, you really need to take a good look at how you feel about the issue of finances and then move on from there and choose the path that you should proceed in with regard to your continued matchmaking efforts.
Along those lines, some people feel that they will lose their independence if they decide to get married, so they chose cohabitation. When you continue in your matchmaking efforts, you really need to figure our where your heart lies with this factor before you move forward. To be fair to marriage and those that are happily married, those couples do not feel that they have lost their freedom by getting married; rather they feel that as they unite with someone that they love, in body, soul and spirit, they find a new sense of freedom and joy and that is a great reason to get married. You need to thoroughly evaluate the pros and cons of marriage versus cohabitation before you move forward in regard to any matchmaking efforts.
Another reason that some people chose cohabitation over marriage is that they don't want to have any real ties to hold them done should the relationship fail. This lack of commitment is an issue and shows that those that cohabitation really don't love one hundred percent enough to find a love that lasts and is real and thus moves forward into a marriage relationship. Whichever matchmaking roadway you chose, you need to make sure that you evaluate all of your options and beliefs. When you go down the matchmaking road towards marriage, it is an awesome feeling to know that you have found someone who values a long-term love and commitment as much as you do. When your matchmaking efforts bring you to marriage rather than to cohabitation, you have more of the necessary stability that you need in your life and the lives of your future children because marriage holds far more commitment than cohabitation does. When your matchmaking efforts lead you to cohabitation, it may be good for a time, but you will not end up in a long-term stable commitment because there is always the threat that one or both of you will decide to leave the relationship at any time.
John Smithe is an experienced writer on the professional singles market and Romance Pros matchmaking. He has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of John's most favorite topics to write on include professional matchmakers. Matchmaking
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