By Aaron Adams
So many great women today go through the pain and frustration of wondering why their men suddenly stop keeping in touch, especially even when the past few dates they've had were actually great. There seems no apparent reason for the man's sudden withdrawal, and nothing they do seems to rekindle the fire in their relationship. What's worse, this sudden withdrawal seems to happen to almost every single man they go out with.
If you're reading this article, then chances are that you've experienced something like this before. And chances are also that you've tried fixing the problem, only to make it worse. What's going on?
Here's why – most great, independent men out there don't have any trouble living out their lives. They're successful, intelligent, witty, and basically get along fine with everyone they meet. They seem to be the perfect lifetime partners, and it's easy for men to see this.
Unfortunately, not all women are as independent and easygoing as these men, but that doesn't stop them from pretending to be. After all, if they catch his attention, it's all that matters, right?
Actually, it almost never works that way. It's not easy (nor is it right) to pretend to be someone else, and sooner or later these women have to drop the act and present themselves as who they really are. Naturally, this shocks the men out of their skins and make them do the first thing that comes to their minds – and that's to withdraw from the relationship altogether.
It's natural for women to try to get the relationship back together, but they make so many common mistakes that they only succeed in making things worse. For instance, when he does make a phone call, all she does is complain about how he's hurt her feelings. That's not going to oblige him to stay – and even if it does, it's only a recipe for more problems in the future.
It doesn't have to be this way, though. You can change the outcome of these great dates. Instead of seeing him withdraw and end the relationship just like that, you can have him actually come after you. And it all starts within yourself.
You'll need to find whatever it is that's keeping you from feeling independent and confident. Is it debts? A few extra pounds? A fear of rejection? Whatever it is, you'll have to fix the problem so you can better show yourself to him as a woman who reflects his own character – laid-back and easygoing.
When you catch his attention by being independent, the next thing you need to do is to keep his attention – and you can do this by being playful. For instance, when he calls you after a long period of inactivity, don't lash out at him at why he hasn't kept in touch! Instead, be genuinely happy and excited to hear from him, and go ahead and suggest to hang out again sometime soon. Emphasis on genuine – if you still have to pretend that you're happy, then there's still something askew in the inner you.
The rule of thumb is this: You need to be independent and playful to catch the attention of the great men out there. Men would want their future relationships to be fun, and if you show him that you can help bring the fun into a relationship, then there won't be any reason for him to stop calling you up.
Aaron Adams specializes in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out the real reason why he has stopped calling.
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