By Aaron Adams
Many women complain about how it's next to impossible to meet "real" men these days. They'd tell you that real men simply don't exist anymore, and that only the boring ones are left. What they don't tell you is that they really don't do their part in meeting any new men – ask them how many new men they've talked to in the past several months, and you'll be surprised at how few they've actually chatted with.
It's partly society's fault – after all, we were brought up to know better than talk to strangers. That's why so many women would much rather stick to what's familiar, even if it means relegating themselves to a very small circle of friends. And with so few men to choose from in that tiny network, it's no surprise why they think it's next to impossible to find "real" men anymore.
It doesn't have to be that way. If you want to meet new men, here are a few tips to help get you started.
1) Stop making excuses. While it's true that everybody gets nervous now and then, it's no excuse to shy away from initiating a conversation with a guy you're attracted to. Neither is it an excuse to say that it's the men's "job" to make the first move. Put bluntly, men are actually just as scared as you are when it comes to establishing a connection with someone new. Some are even just plain terrified. Either way, making excuses for not establishing a connection deprives many, many individuals of happy, long-lasting relationships in society today.
2) Be determined to change. Another reason why so many women fail to meet new men these days is because they're not really sold on the idea of changing. These women stay in a cozy little comfort zone, where they spend their time asking themselves "what if" and never actually doing anything to help the situation. When you get out of your comfort zone and decide to take the risk of trying, only then will things start happening.
3) Don't think you're single, or unattractive, or any other negative description. Remember, whatever you focus on will grow. If you focus on the idea that you're fat, then you'll start thinking, feeling, and acting fat. It's only a step away from actually sending bad vibes that are enough to turn even the most understanding man away. In other words, you need to have a bit of self-esteem in yourself. A confident woman is infinitely more attractive to a "real" man than one who sits around feeling sorry for herself.
4) Stop asking yourself whether or not he's interested, and take matters into your own hands. When you feel that the guy glancing at you from across the room is actually attracted to you, and you somehow feel the same way towards him, then don't wait for him to make the first move. Chances are you'll be waiting for nothing. Instead, give him an opening – walk to the bar or the balcony, for instance – and give him a look that says, "got a minute?"
I know, it may seem drastic, but it's much better than spending the rest of your life wondering what might have happened if you actually had the courage to talk to him.
Good luck!
Aaron Adams specializes in relationship matters for women. Tired of attracting Mr Wrong? Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com.
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