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By Tiffany Provost
It requires a lot of responsibility to be a parent. Not only is it important to meet basic needs but parents must also help to nurture good behavior so that children grow up to be responsible citizens.
It all begins with discipline. There are many ways in which you and your spouse can come to a compromise about dealing with discipline in your home. Use these tips to help raise your own happy, obedient child.
Always have your arguments away from your children. At least be responsible enough to discuss contentious issues outside of your child's hearing. Any marriage has its' share of arguments but make an effort to argue in private and away from the kids. It is hurtful to the child and it also lets them know that there is a weakness in the discipline realm, which may then lead to the child getting away with more! Take care to have your arguments quietly and privately.
Sometimes it helps in dealing with a bad situation to put a name on it. Discipline problems in children occur mainly because the parents are inconsistent with parenting the child. Both parents need to sit down and agree on what the problem is at hand.
Do your kids have chores they are responsible for doing? Do you sense a deficiency in the level of respect? Do you suspect your child is being less than honest with you? All these listed issues may cause problems with how the initial behavior was addressed.
If you can figure out the problem that needs to be fixed, you will have a better chance of dealing with the discipline problem.
It is time to review options and choose the best one. Negative consequences come from negative behaviors. If your child is behaving badly, he or she needs to understand their behavior and accept the consequences. This requires approval from the two of you. Some discipline ideas could be extra chores, apology notes, grounding, loss of privileges and so on.
It is very important that the discipline administered is fitting to the degree of bad behavior. For example, if a child doesn't finish the laundry he shouldn't lose his soccer privileges forever. Don't choose a privilege that he loves, it may be a bit harsh. The two of you need to communicate and compromise with each other to resolve problems regarding children misbehavior. That's vital (and you both must strongly support the decision. Otherwise, the child will manipulate either parent and the discipline will fall by the wayside.)
Do your best work all the time, or not at all. Being consistent with discipline means to set clear expectations for your children and then stick to them. The child should know what to expect if he or she goes out of line. The rule is to be consistent and unwavering. This way the child will learn that there are always consequences for inappropriate behavior.
Tiffany Provost writes about parenting and Family tips for HowToDoThings.com.
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