By Hal Stevens
Through exceptional times and dreadful, through delight and pain, your partner is the person whom you have chosen to spend your life with. When your husband or wife departs this life, you might feel lost and very alone.
Sometimes a spouse may not want to deliver the eulogy at the funeral or memorial services simply because he or she is too close and too emotionally involved to be able to stand before the other mourners and speak about the life of the person they loved so dearly.
However, many spouses do want to speak at the service so that their affection and devotion can be made known. Overall, your spouse knows you better than anyone else.
Make three considerations when you are thinking about writing a eulogy for your spouse.
1. Traditional eulogy: Start off with a little about when and how you met, how you life has changed since they have been in it, mention children, grandchildren, and pets. Share a funny story. Talk about their careers, hobbies, and interests.
2. Death of a spouse poem: Poetry often can reveal your deepest feelings about your spouse. It can also bring to life emotions that otherwise couldn't be expressed. When you recite a poem as a eulogy you are sharing on the very deepest level. If you are not a poem writer there are plenty available on the Internet that you can either use or use as a base to create your own.
3. Death of a spouse (brief marriage) - Begin with a bit about when and how you met, how your life has changed because they have been in it. Point out any children, even if the children were not made together. Share a funny story. Talk about their profession, hobbies, and interests. The one thing that you may want to put in is, "My only regret was that our time as one was so short. However, I know that the love we shared and the things that I learned from him will keep me until we are reunited one day. I will love on the recollections we shared. As an alternative to wishing we had more time, I will be satisfied to remember…"
Any time that was spent together is neither enough time or too short of a time to precisely express the joys and sorrows that were experienced together with the person that you felt made you complete. To say that dealing with the death of a loved one is difficult is an understatement. Every person is unique, and the ways in which we react to the passing of someone we care about are just as unique.
Though death is inevitable, very often, we're not prepared to lose a loved one, regardless of the circumstances. Our minds and our bodies go through changes during the process of grieving. The amount of stress—especially on those closest to the deceased—is often overwhelming.
To find out more about his CemeterySpot family of free services and resources, to learn more about his books, and to get a free gift, please visit: http://www.cemeteryspot.com. Hal is the author of several critically acclaimed eBooks specifically written to help people deal with end of life issues. His eBooks include topics such as: cremation, writing and delivering a eulogy, eco-friendly green funerals, funeral planning, organ donation, and buying and selling cemetery plots.
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