By James Brito, Relationship Expert
Kissing girls: It's meant to be fun. If you're nervous about kissing women, or see it as only a gateway towards sex, you're missing out. In fact, the more you take your time with kissing and truly enjoy it, the more chances you have of enjoying physical intimacy with a girl. So let me show you how to kiss girls--and enjoy it!
If you've never kissed before, the best thing you can possibly do is RELAX. It isn't a big deal if you muck up your first kiss! Girls are very understanding, and you can actually laugh about it. I know so many couples who joke about their first kiss. The first kiss most people have is an awkward one, so girls will forgive you if it's not perfect!
Next, learn proper kissing technique. That means knowing how to move in for the kiss, controlling your tempo, kissing for affection, and kissing for intimacy. There are lots of websites out there, but I like this site the best for kissing girls the RIGHT ways. You'll get pictures and everything about what's right and what's wrong.
I'm going to cover two particular areas of kissing in this column: kissing for affection, and kissing for intimacy. First let's talk about kissing for intimacy. Say you're on a date and want to move things to the next level. The best way to do it is to talk about how you'd like to kiss her. As one guru, Craig, says, "Talking about sex is the first step towards having it." Likewise, talking about kissing is the first step towards actual kissing. It will relax both of you and, if said in a relaxed, confident, NOT desperate tone, can really excite a girl.
Once you do get to kissing, kiss with passion: don't half-job it! Use your arms, your body: press into her, touch her face with your hands, stroke her hair. All these things show you're serious about intimacy and want her in the worst way.
If she pulls in, you're doing great. Pulls back, just slow it down. Just because she doesn't do it with the same passion as you doesn't mean she wants it. A lot of times girls want to take things slower than guys. That's fine: match her tempo. Kiss her on the neck, the cheeks, all over. Eventually that will warm her up.
When she starts to get into it (moaning, moving closer to you, grabbing you back), you can start kissing her in her erogenous zones all over the body. Remember, kissing isn't just on the lips! If you really want to get intimate, kiss her below the neck--on her thighs, on her hips (very sensitive area!) and even on her feet. Not to mention the obvious areas. :) This should guarantee you a great night.
But kissing doesn't end with sex! Too many guys make that mistake. Sex is only the BEGINNING of the kissing stage! As you're performing, remember to kiss her all over her body, particularly on the neck and breasts. Show that you're not interested just in a quick act--you want to be passionate and intimate, as well. Kissing achieves this purpose, and will make the girl eager to do it again!
For affection, kissing is the best. As I say in my e-book and audio articles, women LOVE surprises, so nothing shows you love your girlfriend (or wife) like a surprise, spontaneous kiss out of nowhere! She'll love it, and thank you for it. She'll also reward you for it, by staying with you and treating you great. Happy wife, happy life!
The same goes with girlfriends. Don't be surprised if she starts bringing you breakfast in bed, buying you presents, acting a lot nicer, when you give her lots of kisses out of nowhere, just to remind her that you love her. This works!
Remember, kissing is meant to be FUN. Once you see the fun and enjoyable side of kissing, you'll surely want more and more. As an old Chinese proverb goes, "Kissing is like drinking tea with a tea strainer: you can never get enough."
To learn more great kissing techniques, I recommend the following site. I find its information to be practical, effective, and very easy to digest:
http://www.kissing101.net
About the Author: James Brito, bestselling author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women," delves into secrets of female attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men worldwide find the women of their dreams. Get started today with his free six-part audio mini-course:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen
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