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| What do You Really Want in a Woman? | October 13, 2008, 11:08 am | visits: 37 | wordcount: 1197
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By D Abbondanza
Have you ever thought it out? Could you answer confidently?
Most guys will respond with something like "I want to be able to nail every woman I feel ATTRACTED to ..." But this is only because they haven't thought things through.
It's not that being able to bed any woman you choose is a bad thing ... it's just not an answer to the above question.
I'm asking what you really want in a woman ... not "how often do you want to have casual sex?"
I'm putting you through this exercise because it will help you to deal more confidently with women you meet. More about this later.
Once you know what you really want in a woman you will start doing things that helps YOU qualify the women you meet. This is a complete reversal of how things normally happen.
Remember what I said when you were first introduced to the Memorable MACKing philosophy: "Don't play by the rules."
Normally, things are reversed.
You meet a woman and she starts her qualification process (sometimes unknowingly). Being a creature of habit, she is looking for reasons to disqualify you or to turn you into a friend.
That's usually how things go for her so it's what she has learned to expect.
If you preempt her process however, metaphorically saying "we're not going to do that," you are separating yourself from the herd.
Her antennae will go up. You will find her becoming suddenly curious about you. You'll know this is the situation when she is asking DIRECT questions of you.
Once she senses you are not going to cooperate with her normal process she will try a frontal assault. You have to dodge these questions, though. I recommend turning the tables on her.
"Where do you work?" (meant to get some clues about your income)
- "I work in the industry. I like it."
"Did you come here with anybody?" (are you in a relationship?)
- "Right now, I'm talking with you."
The key is to answer the question without answering the question. This prevents her from using her qualifiers.
Keep in mind that it is not the case that you are afraid of answering the questions. You must give her the impression that you are not casual about telling people about yourself. This says you are not desparate for a woman; rather, you are confident enough in yourself that you don't feel compelled to try and impress everybody you meet and that she must "earn" this kind of information by selling herself first.
If she persists in trying to get information turn it around and ask what she is after.
- "We've only just met. Are you always this pushy with men you are interested in?"
or maybe ...
- "I don't think you're my type. You'll have to change my mind before I answer personal questions."
If you can make her feel as though she has to prove her value to you she will begin to feel ATTRACTION. I know... it's not logical. Don't try to figure it out. Just go with it.
As you interact with her, teasing gently, being funny, and showing her that you understand women, you will be stoking those embers making her feel an emotional, gut response to you.
This is when body language takes on a much bigger role.
Female body language is not difficult to read. It's important to pickup on these so you know when she wants more than a good conversation.
When a women flirts she is saying that she is interested in you. She probably wants you to get closer to her physically. She will allow you in her space.
When a girl is attracted to a man her subconscious moves her closer (so her pheromones fill your senses). Physiological changes and posture adjust to accommodate the opportunity.
It's really easy to understand the majority of female body language.
Follow her eyes when you are talking. If she's flirting, you will see her looking at your mouth, imagining what it would be like to kiss those lips.
If she strokes her thigh, she wants you to look at her legs. It's a kind of tease that women do without realizing it.
We've all seen women with their legs crossed, rocking a shoe back and forth on the tip of her foot. This is an unquestionable invitation. If you doubt that this is a subconscious "come hither", say something aggressive or negative and watch what happens to the shoe and crossed legs.
If she starts rubbing her neck or fidgeting with a necklace it's not because she has a stiff neck or a problem with the necklace. Lifting the arms uplifts her breasts and accentuates the shapes of the upper torso.
She may lower her voice and start whispering. This requires both to lean in and be closer. She's inviting you to share her personal space.
Sitting with her inner thigh exposed means she is comfortable with you. If she is showing you her inner thigh while allowing your legs to touch as you talk, she's thinking of you in a sexual way.
There are countless body language signals women use. I really believe most of them are unconscious. And they are not difficult to decipher.
Generally, if she is inviting you to share her personal space or frequently touches you when talking, she is telling you that SO FAR, she likes the idea of being intimate with you.
How you handle these GO AHEAD signs will determine how far things go.
An important thing to remember is that if you are in a public gathering place, where you really can't be intimate and you haven't planned anything where the two of you can go to move things along, you probably should see the current situation as an opportunity to trigger ATTRACTION strongly for your next meeting where you can control things.
Just when the flirting is at a peak -- end it. Remove yourself, in a gentlemanly fashion.
- "I have to go. (pause) Just when this was getting to be fun. I'd like to see you again. Why don't you give me your email address? Or, I can give you my phone number."
Either way you are in control. If she gives you her email, you choose when to contact her and what the subject will be. If she opts for your phone number, let your machine pickup and call back when it suits you.
The fact is she will be chasing you, hungry to satisfy those ATTRACTION feelings you triggered in her.
But let's get back to why you should think about what you want in a woman.
If you know what you truely are looking for in a woman (not just an afternoon's delight), you won't have any difficulty whatsoever walking away from a woman as an opportunity. Most won't have what you are looking for and will simply be another bedding challenge. No loss whatsoever.
It's being able to walk away without looking back that makes you ATTRACTIVE to women.
I will warn you, though. Having thought it through, when you do meet that special woman that has everything you are looking for, you're in trouble.
And if you think about it, you'll probably have to go through a lot of women before meeting the one-and-only. That's what the MACKnificent Strategies are here for.
Learn the Strategies and they will be lining up for you.
Good Fortune in your MACKing,
The MACKnificent Strategies and Memorable MACKing behaviors can be found at http://www.BestInfoFound.com
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