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| The Key to the Perfect First Date | August 28, 2008, 11:43 pm | visits: 21 | wordcount: 617
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By Andres Munoz
Most men struggle when coming up with ideas on where to take a woman they just met. Most men think they are required to take their date to dinner and a movie. Taking a girl to the movies is the worst move because you sit there for two or more hours not talking. Not only do you display "boring" on your part you are missing valuable time in not making a connection with her.
Additionally taking a first date to dinner is also a waste of money especially if you discover you both have nothing in common. You may as well cancel out a second date and to top it all off you're out at least $50 - $70 bucks. If you are the type of guy that thinks he needs to spend money on a date - STOP! You'll never gain any respect and the wrong type of girl will exploit you like an ATM machine.
The best advice for first dates is to keep it casual and inexpensive. As a matter of fact a simple cup of coffee at Starbucks would do just fine. Simply sit down and talk and find some commonalities and see for yourself if you actually like this girl. That's it! All you want to do at this point is to talk and see if this is the type of girl you want to see a second time.
The very best way to make a lasting impression on your second date is change the scene multiple times within that time frame. So for instance you first catch some coffee at your local coffee shop and head to the mall and shop a bit (shop for yourself!) and perhaps hit the bar with a dance floor. The whole time always keep in mind that you are trying to establish connections and commonalities you are not just doing stuff. "Doing stuff" will get you nowhere and your date will not really be interested in you after awhile.
Men believe that it takes a long time or several dates for women to trust them, well that isn't the case! Trust is determined by the perceived amount of interaction, which is related to not only the accumulated time but also the depth of interaction with that woman. So if you are doing several activities with that special gal you are in fact changing her perception of the amount of time she has spent with you. You are in affect making one 3-4 hour date seem like several dates because there are several interactions taking place.
Alternatively you can simply use the above tactic on your first date as well. If you feel you are establishing solid connections there is nothing wrong in being spontaneous and taking her somewhere else. Women like guys that are adventurous and fun.
This tactic of doing several things in one date is incredibly powerful as long as you are keeping up the conversation level and making connections. It gives the women the perception that they have known you for a long time the only real trick is to do several things all in the same date. Remember women value themselves on their relationships they have with their family, friends and loved ones. So it's important that you listen to her that way you can see if you share some commonalities with similar experiences she has had.
The key in making your date fun is to be exactly that, FUN! Avoid taking her to the movies and in particular a nice restaurant. Women are attracted to men that are different and fun they simply find them irresistible. Separate yourself from 99% of the guys out there and you are guaranteed to make your successes with women grow exponentially.
Andres Munoz is a dating expert and with his latest project he reveals which dating courses are most effective in seduction. Sign up for our mini course and start using these seduction secrets you can use tonight and get immediate results at http://www.datingreviewworld.com/seductionsecrets.htm
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