By Aaron Adams
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus; that is how different men and women are. Women define casual dating and a relationship differently from men.
One of the differences between genders is that women venture into the dating arena hoping to find a man who is thinking of getting a serious and long lasting relationship. Women get into relationships seriously wishing that this will be for keeps. This is basically the reason why many women are afraid that the man they are eyeing might reject them or turn out to be another Mr. Wrong.
On the flipside, men look at dating in a different light. They get excited when they meet new women, especially the kind of men whom women see are a good find; men who are witty, good looking and exude sexiness through their independence. Unfortunately these are the kinds of men who consider dating as something just for fun and are not interested in a serious relationship. Men who think this way is capable of having a casual relationship that lasts for months but settling down is never considered.
At this point, the crisis begins. The woman feels that her love is unappreciated because the man is not commitment-bound, while on the other hand the man feels the pressure of forced to settle down. If you've been in this scenario before, then you are on the same boat as other women who went through the same problem.
The truth of the matter is that numerous women get into this situation time and time again, wondering if there is no man alive left who is a good enough catch. If you think along this lines, then its probably time to think that the solution can be found nearby. Admit it or not, but you may be showing him qualities that makes him think that you are not exactly "wife material."
You may want to avoid the following bad qualities:
Emotionally Insecure.
Do you complain a lot and fuss over minor issues? You may be emotionally insecure and immature if you are majoring on the minor things. Criticize your man's emotions, thoughts and actions, and you are surely treading on dangerous grounds. While your complaints and observations may be legit, men do not like being told upfront about the things that are "wrong" with him. This is one way of ensuring that he will think that you are weird and then slowly fade away, never to be seen again.
Curtailing His Freedom.
Demanding that he give up parts of his freedom for you is another way of telling him that he has to give up a lot just to be with you. The scary part is that he may realize that giving up the things he loves, such as his friends and his hobbies, for you may not be worth it. Remember that these are things that have been in his life before you came, so don't go cleaning house if you want to reside in it.
Be the woman who is fun and easy to be with and avoid the bad qualities mentioned. Make him see that you have the qualities that can make his life easier and more enjoyable, and he won't have any reason to stay single for long.
Aaron Adams specializes in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out 3 qualities that your man will go wild for.
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