By Eddie Phanichkul
Have you've ever been in a situation where you've met the man or woman of your dreams, but he or she is still in a somewhat committed relationship? If so, then you know how hard it is to be the odd man out.
How do you keep from ultimately being rejected? How can you trust someone who leaves their boyfriend or girlfriend for you?
Here are some tips and five ways to make sure you're right for each other. At least you'll have piece of mind knowing you did your very best and maybe it was not meant to be.
1. Make sure the person you're with is meant for you, and not just trying relieve themselves of their stressful life with an affair or torrid romance. Chances are the person who's doing the cheating will ultimately back out when they begin to sort out their own life, but only after unleashing a whirlwind of lies and destroying someone in the process.
2. If he or she is leaving their significant other for you, that's a bad sign. Make sure if they really want to leave the one they are with, it's for a good reason. That reason cannot be you! You can't trust someone who leaves someone solely for you.
3. If you've fallen madly in love with the person, take a step back and look at the big picture. They may have led you on unintentionally, though you might still feel a strong connection with each other. You could be made for each other, but relationships take time, no matter how romantic you both are.
4. Don't be fooled by love letters. Actions speak louder than words, so show them how you feel and if they reciprocate, perhaps it is meant to be. Just make sure they are serious and are willing to cut their ties to another before creating new ties with you.
5. Out of sight, out of mind. The only way to get over a relationship of this nature is to forget it. The relationship may have been doomed from the start if they weren't planning on leaving their significant other for you. It may have been passionate at times, but you can't do anything to change their lives. Anything you do can interfere with their natural path and mess up any chance you ever had with the person you care for. You don't want to be the other man or the other woman. If you find yourself in this scenario, run!
Some romantics believe distance makes the heart grow fonder. If you're in a situation where he or she is cheating, or planning to leave the one they love for you, make sure you tell them to tie up their own loose ends and clean up their mess before proceeding. This could have a negative impact on your relationship in the future and trust will always be an issue. Remember to always keep your guard up just in case, especially if you've been burned before.
Eddie Phanichkul is a writer from southern California. He writes on relationships and technology, as well as reviews film and literature. Visit Taking Stuff Apart, http://www.takingstuffapart.com to read more!
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