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| Life Coach: Top Ten New Year Resolutions & How To Make Them Permanent | January 2, 2008, 5:10 am | visits: 90 | wordcount: 1140
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By Kelly Burris
This is not yet another article to give you advice or tell you what to do. Most people have a difficult time telling a five year old what to do let alone someone who has lived with an unwanted behavior for 5, 10, 15 or more years. This is an article about the basics of how to get the job done.
The mind is great at multitasking. This is why one can maintain several bad habits at once and this is why one can make several resolutions to replace those habits and accomplish them all. Before we get started with the top ten New Year Resolutions however one needs to understand some basic principals about the subconscious.
From your very first breath everything you have seen, heard, smelled, tasted or felt is stored in the subconscious mind. The subconscious uses this information to determine how you emotionally respond to your world. This is what is referred to as your subconscious programming. If you do not know how the subconscious works and how to take control of it you will be subject to the subconscious running on its own and your life a random event. This is why there is an endless supply of advice givers because no one has taken the time to address the single most important question for goal setting, New Year Resolutions or just simply a change in behavior and that is "What determines a human behavior?" A New Year Resolution or setting a goal is all about fixing something that does not work. This brings up another question "Can you fix anything if you do not know how it works?" The answer to this is an emphatic no. It is the equivalent of banging on the top of your radio or TV when it goes on the blink and suddenly it starts working. You say to yourself…I guess I fixed it. Does it make any sense to guess when speaking in terms of the quality of your life and what you need for it to work?
Once you have an answer to the question (What determines human behavior?) you will need information on how to act upon the answer but first let's take a look at the top ten New Year Resolutions slightly revised by THE Burris Life Coach.
1) Learn the Process of What Determines Human Behavior
The resolution of changing any behavior always begins with a question and the question here is, "What determines human behavior?" If you cannot answer this question you are guessing how to accomplish your New Year Resolutions. Without learning the process of what determines a behavior it is unlikely you will be able to permanently change any behavior so this question needs to be number one on your list.
2) Spend More Time with Family & Friends
Love is your most powerful emotional state and spending more time with people you love assists in solidifying this emotional state. If you underhand how an emotional state comes about you can maintain this powerful state in the absence of family and friends.
3) Health, Fitness and Weight Loss
Fifty-five percent of adults in America are overweight so this has become a popular New Year Resolution. Evidence of this is the packed Health Clubs in January. Weight Loss is almost a 40 billion dollar a year industry. Every year it is a rehash of the same old things and people continue to buy them. At some point you need to ask yourself if you have control over your eating behavior. If the answer is no or not really then it is time to get control of what is controlling you.
4) Quit Smoking
Smoking is more than just a habit it is a physiological addiction. This is why you must attack this problem from two fronts. There are a number of different ways to immediately address the physiological part of the equation but the behavior must be addressed at the same time in order to permanently kill the habit. When the habit is not addressed along with the physiological side of the problem more harm than good can be done. This happens when you continue to smoke while wearing a patch or using other pharmaceuticals to kill the addiction.
5) Enjoy Life More
This seems like it would be so simple but if you do not understand how an emotional state comes about this is easy to say but very difficult to accomplish.
6) Quit Drinking
While many people use the New Year as an incentive to finally stop drinking, most are not equipped with the skills in taking control of their subconscious. If you do not run the subconscious the subconscious is going to run you.
7) Get Out of Debt
Was money a big source of stress in your life last year? Out of control dept often means out of control emotionally. Over spending has a lot to do with trying to make yourself feel better. If you begin to understand how an emotional state comes about then you need not overspend to attempt to affect it.
8) Learn Something New
Challenge your mind in the coming year, and your horizons will expand. Especially if you are learning how the subconscious works and how to take control of it.
9) Help Others
This is a popular, non-selfish New Year resolution. This is an important resolution because our only real value is what we can do for other humans.
10) Get Organized
Organization is the key to permanently maintaining a long New Year Resolution List but where do you start. You start by taking control of what allowed you to become disorganized to begin with and that is of course the supreme ruler in your life, the subconscious. The new meaning of getting organized is getting control of the clutter in the subconscious first and then everything else will follow.
The reason all New Year Resolutions gets down to the subconscious is because the subconscious runs approximately four times faster than you can speak and right now you have no idea what it is doing. The conscious and subconscious is like a rope tow with the vat of mud in the middle. The conscious is one person on one side against the subconscious which is four people on the other side. If consciously you say to yourself, I want to lose weight, quit smoking etc. it is usually a losing proposition because you are outnumbered with information. In other words if you do not understand how to take control of the subconscious you will almost always be out gunned by the subconscious.
Until you learn how to recognize access and change your subconscious programming your New Year Resolutions will probably always be carried over to the next year. The question before you make a New Year Resolution is "Do I want control over my New Year Resolutions?" If the answer to this question is yes then the first step is to get control of your subconscious.
Kelly Burris has set the standard for Life Coach Training and Certification with the only clinically proven process for depression. Kelly's two current books are THE Burris Life Coach for Adults and THE Burris Life Coach Ages 7-17. Please visit KellyBurris.com for more.
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