By Tadas Talaikis.
If, in our example, the dam is considered a problem for the river, then any problem is simply a deviation from the straight course. If the river flowed along its course without meeting a dam, one could say that it had no problems because it did not meet any obstacles or challenges.
The straight road, in other words, is the truth, right information; any deviation from the straight road is a lie, distorted, wrong information or evasion.
Problems exist only because of the lack of information or because of wrong (falsified) information.
Let's suppose that we believe: in order to achieve financial freedom you need to work hard; however, as much as we work, someone will always earn more than us. This is because a small deviation exists in "hard work" belief, for achieving financial freedom it is not the effort, but the wise effort that earns us more. Instead of believing in hard work, change to believing in smart work.
We can dig as many regular trenches as we would like but we will not become rich because each person's time and effort resources are limited. If you want to become rich by quickly digging trenches, you must organize an army of slaves.
Or hoping for easy money you can go to the king and ask for ten thousand ducats to purchase a ship and travel plundering the new lands from "barbarians." Or sit on the oil pipe somewhere in Russia and over a couple of years steal the Earth's black gold that took millions of years to form.
If you want to become rich ethically you have to pay those who dig the trenches for their services.
If you love digging trenches, you may want to increase your qualifications or knowledge of trench-digging problems. Thus you can increase the value of the same time and effort, enabling you to earn more and still work a loved job.
What differentiates an unfortunate person from a fortunate one, a successful person from an unsuccessful one, is only being informed. A person must have information about his subject. The more fortunate person knows how to solve a problem easily and more accurately. He knows WHAT the problem is; that is why he does not worry when problems appear, and does not worry about natural problems either. A fortunate person is not scared of problems. He or she simply has balance of problems-neither too much, nor too little.
An unfortunate person is unfortunate not because of fate, the stars, the gods or any other similar nonsense, but because of his inability to see. For him, a capability to not know appears.
First, we should know:
In order for a problem to exist and to undermine peace, it is necessary for it to have some unknown part. It may be that the problem itself is absolutely unknown (incomprehensible) or that some parts of the problem are falsely comprehended. There may also be a misunderstanding about the actual problem (problem does not exist or information about it distorted).
In short:
For the problem to exist it must be based on a falsehood.
Let's say that a conflict arises with one's wife or husband caused by one of his or her statements. The conflict results in a couple of days without speaking to one another. After that, it becomes clear that they:
A. did not understand each other correctly, or
B. said something in a way they did not want to say it.
Every problem should be evaluated like this: for a problem to exist, a falsehood must be present.
Another example is the constant problem of unfaithfulness for one couple.
Seen in this way, the constant problem of unfaithfulness is due to some sort of falsehood. Specifically, the unfaithful person is directly lying to herself and/or her partner, that she is worried about him, that he cares about him and loves him, but the truth is he is simply a one more man to play with.
Problems are caused by the unknown, falsehoods to oneself, the falsehoods of other people, and their mistaken beliefs and opinions. Superstitions that appeared, in turn, because of a lack of knowledge, lack of information, or its distortion, are examples of such mistaken beliefs.
In essence, falsehood is the same dam obstructing the river's flow in its fortunate channel. It undermines the squirrel gathering nuts for the winter. The only thing obstructing our progress toward our goals and having a good life is falsehood.
Someone once lied to a famous actress in her youth by telling her that she was not pretty. This caused her distress all her life, although many years had passed, and she was named the most beautiful woman on the planet. Who created the problem, a problem that was not there? Someone's falsehood.
A tactless comment, especially one made during a sensitive person's youth, may cause him or her to seek treatment all their lives. The comment may have been false or was true only in that moment, sometime in the past, but it is not true today.
This is an excerpt from Tadas Talaikis book "How to live without problems". Visit www.htlwp.com and get your own copy!
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